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A Cause to Pause

Purposeful Wanderings - Bradford L. Glass - March 2021

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“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field.

I’ll meet you there.” – Rumi

The authors of the U.S. Constitution were a brilliant lot. The result of their labors has guided this nation for 230 years. That it has been amended only 27 times attests to their insight, foresight and vision. Today it seems to be weathering a storm even they couldn’t imagine, yet there’s a lesson in their commitment that might guide us anew.

Things didn’t always go well for Madison, Jefferson, Franklin, Hamilton and their peers. They disagreed, strongly at times, over things big and small. What made them extraordinary was that their deep belief in a young nation’s potential was far greater than the substance of their differences. So, when faced with disagreement, they were led to dialogue rather than divisiveness. Dialogue is a two-way sharing of ideas, aimed at understanding and learning, conducted in an environment of respect and reciprocity, and based in mutual belief in shared values. Through dialogue, they discovered and then worked through major issues and potential pitfalls … their differences thereby strengthening the result. (A question: When were you last engaged in the inspiration of true dialogue?)

It seems we’re headed the opposite direction – toward divisiveness, judgment, personal entitlement, deception and denial – suggesting that we hold the substance of our differences more important than commitment to shared values. Two false beliefs underlie this untenable position: that personal opinion qualifies as evidence, and that denigration of others constitutes effective, valid display of power. Don’t know about you, but I see yelling, denial and refusal to dialogue as weakness, not strength. (Truth doesn’t need to yell … or divide others. It simply IS.)

A bit of defensiveness may be unavoidable … as we instinctively seek a sense of safety in a chaotic, complex and uncertain world. Yet to create a future based on separateness, entitlement and personal opinion actually leaves us less safe and less secure. To focus on what’s wrong instead of what’s possible fuels the destructive loop of divisiveness. Worse, when (or if) the drama subsides, all that’s left is opinion, which, unlike truth, has no sustainable energy of its own, forcing us to fuel it from the outside, with more defensiveness and justification. What now?

Singlehandedly, you can’t change the conversation society has become. Yet singlehandedly, you can choose the conversation you become, everywhere in life – with others, the world, even yourself. “The conversation you are” is made up of thoughts … thoughts you are free to choose in each moment. By growing awareness (which is the true challenge here) you become free to choose thoughts fueled by your curiosity instead of thoughts fueled by your judgment. It doesn’t matter that you think your judgments are “right.” Those who see you as “wrong” think theirs are right. You may worry that releasing your judgment would just leave “them” free to spew nonsense. So what? First, their railing would no longer ruin your day. Next, this isn’t about changing them; it’s about changing you (not so as to deny your beliefs, but so as to find personal peace in a world that has lost its way). Last, they’d get tired of spewing if no one listened. Shifting your consciousness does change the world, one thought at a time.

During times of challenge and uncertainty in my life, times when I felt most intent on pulling in the edges of my world, often in fear or self-defense, what I needed most was to expand my edges, opening to listening and learning – dialogue – allowing new ideas to fill the space I’d created. The most profound shift my life took was when I realized that my own potential came far more from being connected than from being right. The path was often rocky, yet slowly I allowed life’s challenges to teach me instead of just evoking my defensiveness and denial.

I can’t help believing that authors of the Constitution felt it a privilege to serve their country as they did. I also can’t help believing that seeing our world through a lens of privilege rather than one of entitlement could lead us to some exciting places: to adopt a consciousness of gratitude for all we have; to behave in ways that value what truly matters; to treat others with greater respect, even if we don’t agree with them; and to be more respectful of the long-term impact of the choices we make – on ourselves, others and planet. In the space thus created, all might live more peacefully. This is not ideological fantasy; it’s the [untapped] potential human consciousness offers.

Exercise: Choosing the kind of conversation you are: Looking at some of the world’s great masters (the Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, M. L. King, Einstein, to name a few), we hold them in high regard not just for what they did, nor because they were somehow luckier, richer or smarter than most (which they weren’t). We value who they were – their powers of consciousness: awareness, self-trust, courage, non-judgment, passion. The great masters were masters largely because the power of their consciousness was greater than both the small-mindedness and inevitable obstacles they encountered along the way. This power is available to you, too. It’s a choice.

You can choose “the conversation you are.” When you reflect deeply, you get below the opinions, judgments and fear-based defensiveness of the “surface” version of you, and discover the “authentic” version of you instead. This is a being of self-trust, commitment, creativity and non-judgment. It sees with a perspective big enough to hold opposites without judgment, to find comfort in paradox and uncertainty, and to trust its inner light to guide you.

This is just what the fear-based mind is trying to avoid, however, in its attempt to keep you safe. As you learn to realize that the “voices in your head” appear as valid only because they’ve been in there so damned long you no longer question them … then you become free to replace them with thoughts that are genuinely your own. New thoughts create new reality. With courage to engage in deeper reflection, you realize you’re not “separate” at all, but part of something much bigger; and that your former, perhaps defensive, viewpoint of believing small serves neither you nor the world. When you realize you belong here, fear and anxiety fall away, leaving you both resilient and confident, despite society’s attempt to steer you onto a narrower path. This awareness is powerful fuel for self-trust, resilience and truth – a life of purpose and intention. (Note: When you only think about following your truth, things may feel scary. But when you actually follow your truth, you find a deep sense of peace and home.)

Life lessons from nature: You won’t find much stuff out of place in nature. Everything belongs. Two examples: 1) The Arctic looks to be a hostile, unforgiving environment; yet Arctic fox, polar bear, seals, tundra, climate and sea ice orchestrate a “spiral dance” here that holds the entire Arctic ecosystem together as one. 2) In a forest, decaying plant matter and leaf litter are part of a process of becoming. What once “was” becomes “what’s next” – nothing out of place. This is always true when you’re “home.” What this means in everyday life is this: when what you believe, think, see, say and do all match, you also orchestrate a spiral dance that holds you together “as one.” The natural consequences of this place of peace include: (1) never having to remember who you are, simply because the energy of your inner knowing is so powerful, (2) never having to justify yourself, to anyone else or to yourself, simply because truth is so powerful it doesn’t need to be defended, (3) not having to ‘process’ every request from others, simply because your truth acts like a giant “life filter for the unnecessary,” so you instantly know whether someone’s request fits with your truth or not, (in other words, “no, thank you” becomes your new best friend), and (4) others won’t mess with you much, simply because the energy of your personal presence is so powerful and so clear that the unconscious in them will step back from the conscious in you.

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