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On Trying

We were taught to think that things are not OK as they are, so we need to make them OK which leads to seeing life as an obstacle (that isn’t there) which leads to trying (to overcome the elusive obstacle) which leads to stress (we can’t solve a non-existent problem) which leads to more trying (as if it were a matter of effort to begin with) which blinds us to other choices which, of course, keeps us stuck in, even justifying, our trying to the point of seeing the resultant exhaustion as evidence we’re on the right track. It’s not; it’s wasted energy. All along, the work doesn’t stress us; the trying does. “Trying” is not a problem to be solved, but a signal you’re off track. Figure out why you’re off track, and fix that instead.

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