top of page

On Habits

Early in life, we tend to use what we’re good at (like getting things right, being responsible) so as to gain approval of others. Over time, we unconsciously habituate what we’re good at, making it “prevailing strategy” we use everywhere – even believing it’s who we are. In times of stress, we then overuse what we’re good at. But this limits us, blinds us to new choices, leaves us stressed from trying hard. Habitual thinking creates tomorrows that look like yesterday. Yet all of this is just a “story,” made up in our heads, so firmly cemented as truth that the voices in our head tell us what to do. And we listen to them! Awareness of patterns of use, habituation and overuse is the catalyst for change. When we see how our unconscious patterns limit us, we develop new patterns.


bottom of page